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I really miss her


Hi, I’m in love with a girl, but she lives at a college far away. I really miss her, but I don’t know what I should do. She knows that I miss her.



Svar 3/1/2021

Hi,

It’s not much fun living far away from the person you’re in love with. When you’re in love, you want to see each other all the time and be together as much as possible. You don’t mention if you’re in a relationship, or if you’re just friends, but you mention that she knows that you miss her. In your question you ask what to do, but the answer to this will vary according to whether you are friends or dating.

If you are friends, then it also depends on how close friends you are, and how much contact you’ve had previously will also have an influence on how much contact it’s natural to have now. Whatever the relationship, it can be a good idea to keep in touch on social media. If you’re friends on Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram and so on, then you can share a bit of daily life with each other and talk about what you’re doing. It’s normal that friends keep in touch like that, but as you are in love with her, be careful not to exaggerate what you say or how often you are in touch with her.

If you are simply friends now, and you’re hoping for a relationship with her, it can be a good way to get to know each other and get some insight into what the other spends time doing, and what their perspective on things is.

We can’t direct other people’s feelings, we can only hope that they feel the same way. Just make sure to show yourself for who you are, the ‘real’ you. You’ll notice if she’s quiet and only answers your questions, or if she takes initiative to keep in touch with you. This will give you an idea how interested she is in keeping in touch with you and how the friendship (or relationship) will develop.

Living far apart from each other isn’t necessarily a bad thing. There will of course be challenges as you miss each other, but the way you communicate in writing can be a good way to develop a friendship.

 

Best wishes