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Regret masturbating


I feel like I’ve made a mistake. It started when I visited a chat website where I chatted with a guy. He told me that he was turned on and he asked me to send photos of my boobs. I didn’t do that, but afterwards I felt a nice sensation in my vagina, so I searched ‘porno’ on google. I looked at a YouTube film, and then I pulled down my trousers and put my finger in my vagina. After that I realised that I had done something wrong, and now I can’t forgive myself. What can I do? It’s going to affect me for the rest of my life!



Svar 2/24/2021

Hi,

It’s quite normal to experience arousal and temptation. It’s also quite normal to fall into temptation sometimes. The most important thing to do when you fall, is that you don’t stay down, but that you get up and move on boldly. When you realise that you’ve done something you didn’t want to, get up and try again.

It was really smart of you not to send photos of your boobs. It’s never safe to send private photos of yourself, either on the net or by mobile phone, so make sure that no one tricks you by saying that they will delete them, or that they’ve disappeared, because they will not disappear. As you experienced now, it’s not smart to chat with guys you don’t know on the net, often they just want photos or sex, and they can often be totally different from who they say they are.

Getting aroused is a very natural reaction to this kind of excitement. Don’t attach too much importance to the fact that you touched yourself. It’s quite normal that teenagers explore and touch themselves.

It was not a good idea to look at pornography, as photos and impressions you see will remain in your memory and damage your natural relationship to sex. It’s good that you sense this and realise that it isn’t good for you. But it doesn’t help to cry over spilt milk, and you need to forgive yourself in order to move on boldly.