Use a dildo before my wedding night?

Thanks for a good question! It’s great that you ask us so we can address this theme as well. When you write of a better wedding night, then we assume you’re thinking about sexual intercourse being painful, as you mention a dildo as something to make it better. That’s the basis for the answer we give.

We believe that God created sex, and that a man and a woman are designed to fit together from the first time they have intercourse. There’s something special about sharing the first time with the person you have chosen to share the rest of your life with. The fact that you are secure and can relax reduces the risk of intercourse being painful.

Communication is very important in a relationship, and also relating to sex. It would be a great advantage to each of you if you talk about expectations and things you are maybe tense about, in relation to the wedding night. If the woman is nervous her body can easily become tense. In that case, her muscles tighten and it can be more painful when the penis enters, as the vagina is narrower and the woman is less lubricated. If the man and the woman love each other and respect each other, they should relax and take plenty of time before having intercourse. Some keywords are time, feeling safe, and communication. We also advise you to buy lubricant from a chemist, so that intercourse will be as good as possible for both the man and the woman.

Inside the vagina there is something called the hymen, which can stretch a lot. This may have grown together on one side of the vaginal opening, but it can’t break. There’s no reason to think that it’s in the way or has to be removed before the wedding night.