Hi, Girl 15 here. I have some questions I would like you to answer. I've watched porn before and masturbated myself. When I'm done, I feel disgusting. I regret it so much and don't understand how a Christian girl like me can do something so horrible! I have asked for forgiveness, only to fall back on bad habits. I have talked to my big sister about this. It was nice, but still, I feel bad, and I don't know why? Is it common for many of us Christians to struggle with this? Hope you can help me :D I would appreciate it.
Hi dear girl, 15 years old :)
You are an ordinary teenager who has the same feelings and temptations as others. Sometimes, we do things we regret, and other times, we do what we think is right. We need forgiveness all the time because we will never be perfect. God loves you just as much all the time!
The fact that you have sexual feelings and masturbate is something natural that you don't need to be ashamed of. However, it's a good idea to do something about it because it's something that bothers your mind and has become a habit you can't break.
But don't worry, we're not trapped in a pattern that means we always have to keep doing what we're doing, and we always have the opportunity to change ourselves and our behavior. It's really good that you've talked to your big sister. Having an adult to talk to can help you.
Both porn and masturbation will obviously make you think more about sex, have more sexual fantasies and can increase your desire for sex. By regulating what you watch and read, you will be better able to control what you think and fantasize about, which in turn will reduce the need to masturbate.
Porn is designed to arouse emotions and sexual fantasies and shows sex as something separate from love and commitment. Porn misrepresents sexuality and gives you fantasies about sexual acts that can be harmful. Porn is also highly addictive, and we therefore strongly recommend that you stop watching porn.
We can recommend this lecture that explains about this kind of addiction: Porno og dopamin (video - Norwegian), you can also hear it as a podcast here (Norwegian).
We have previously given advice about how to quit porn. You can check out some of the answers we gave here: Hvordan slutte å onanere / Fri fra porno
Read also: Er det greit å onanere / Føler skam av onani og fantasier / Avhengig av porno / Guds nåde er større enn alt / Et gutteliv fylt av fristelser / Kampen om renhet
Wishing you all the best
Best regards, BoyandGirl.info