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My girlfriend wants me to put my finger in her bum

Hi. I’ve got a girlfriend, we’ve been together about a year. Everything’s fine, apart from her wanting me to put my finger in her bum sometimes. Sometimes she wants to put her finger in mine. I’m a Christian and I’m not sure if this is right to do.

Hi, and thanks for your question,
It’s important that you think about where your boundaries are. When you are in a romantic relationship both people should respect each other’s boundaries.

You might also like: Set your own boundaries

When you are a Christian, you should also take into account what the Bible says about sexuality and boundaries.

God had a special purpose with sexuality and that was that it should create a special unity between two people who would stay together for the rest of their lives. All sex acts, including fingering, are intimate and should therefore only be done within marriage. 

You can also read: Er det synd å onanere kjæresten

You can find more answers and articles on this topic here: The invisible reality of sex / Where are the limits, according to the Bible?

Best wishes,


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