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Naked on Skype and Snapchat
Hello, we are two friends who have a bit of a problem... Two of our best friends (a boy and a girl) who are not boy and girlfriend showing their genitals on skype and snapchat. Now they have started touching each other up for real, as well! We know this is not good for them and that they'll regret it later, but we don't know how to deal with it. We are all Christians and that is also part of the problem. This pair of friends don't even see the wrong in what they're doing and that scares us. We would love to help them, do you have any suggestions?
Hello
It's clear these two friends of yours like to cross the boundaries and find it exciting to play with their sexuality. But it's absolutely right what you say, that it's not good for them. You can find ideas for what to say to them, or recommend that they read for themselves, some of the articles and answers we have on this website; such as:
Set your own boundaries
Is it wrong to make out?
Do you have sex when you touch her boobs?
When it comes to being naked on screen, there's another risk, too, -namely that images get spread way beyond our own control. Even though the two of them may feel safe now that no photos will be saved and be passed on, it still is exactly how that happens! Photos get spread, - because friends you think you can trust take a screenshot of your snapchat, and save it for later, and get tempted to share it or forward it. And once your picture has gone astray, you never regain control or know whether it's been deleted or who has got it. Lots of people find their picture being distributed on and on and turning up in webpages that aren't fun or exciting any more. People have found that pictures which they thought they shared completely anonymously have ended up being sent not only to classmates but parents as well by someone they trusted. Many young girls also find that their pictures have been posted online with their full name, - and this can have long-term consequences. It is also usually very difficult to take down and stop the images once they have been posted.
Just like you, we also would strongly recommend that they don't keep doing this, especially as you never really know who is looking at it on the other screen.
If they won't listen to you, maybe you should think of getting an adult to talk with them.
Read also:
Wrong to send provocative snaps?
Kind regards BoyandGirl.info
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